Casual racism and why I'd rather be gay than black. (It sounds worse than it is)

I love calling out racists (especially on Facebook, where everyone can see and they can't get out of it or pretend they didn't say it because it's there in black and white for us all to witness), because a lot of them would cringe if you called them that, because that's not how they see themselves, because that's how easy our society and culture has made it to be casually racist, remarks roll off the tongue and are all over Facebook. Most people would say 'I'm not a racist' or even 'I have black friends', but guess what assuming you are better than someone because you are a colour they aren't, or making assumptions about people based on skin colour is fucking racist. In the same way as saying something is 'so gay' is still a homophobic statement even if you 'love the gays'. Another quick comparison between homophobia and racism, and it starts bad so let me get to the end before anyone goes off on one. I, Abby Jane Pearson, being a young woman living in the UK, would rather be gay than black, and I'll tell you for why right now, because, being gay and black are similar in the sense that, there's nothing wrong with either,neither can, nor should be, helped, they're just facts of life, people are just born that way and it's our differences that make us beautiful and they should be celebrated, but you'll always get some bigot fucking it up for the rest of us, and here comes the reasoning behind why I'd rather be gay than black, as a gay women I can chose when and where, and to whom I come out, when I feel safe and comfortable, sure as shit nobody in the entire world has to come out as black. I've got this friend, she's both black and beautiful, and people think it's okay to shout 'nigger' at her in the street. If a racist approaches her in the street, she cannot deny the beautiful chocolatey tone of her skin, she cannot CHOOSE to be safe. And that my friends, is why I'd rather be gay than black.